PROCARE Adoptions

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Fear of “The First”

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I think that most soon-to-be parents experience that moment of nervousness before meeting their little one for the first time. And most new parents also have that one thing that they are really concerned about having to do for the first time. For some it may be the first bath, or the first feed, or the first time you have to cut such teeny, tiny finger nails.

For us, it was the first nappy change. This was a big deal for us. Neither of us had ever changed a nappy on our own before, so this was a real challenge for us. Some people may think that this is a little silly, given that nappy changing is a big part of being a parent, but that was our “first” fear.

I remember getting into the car on the morning of placement, worrying about “the first nappy change”. Given that I had spent a portion of the previous evening Googling and Youtubing “How to Change a Nappy”, this was a big deal for me.

Fortunately for us, Gabriel is an absolute angel (as his name implies). Within five minutes of having him placed in our arms, he decided that it was time for us to face our fear and conquer it! So within the first few minutes of meeting him, we tackled our first nappy change! And yes, it was one of THOSE nappies. But you know what? We survived! We managed! And it wasn’t as terrifying as we thought it might be.

I think that the “nappy change lesson” was a valuable one for us. As a parent, you can read the books and watch the DVDs and attend the workshops and seminars, but at the end of the day, you have to step into a real situation and handle whatever parenthood throws at you. Yes, it will probably be something new that you’ve never had to deal with before and yes, there is a very good chance that you’re going to have to wing it a little, because all the books and all the Googling and all the YouTube videos in the world can’t prepare you for the realities of parenthood. And that’s not a bad thing. Because all the books and all the Googling and all the Youtube videos in the world also won’t prepare you for the intense rush of emotion that you’ll feel when you’re holding your little one in your arms and he looks up at you and smiles – just because he’s happy to see his mommy and daddy.

Thank you PROCARE for making us a family



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