PROCARE Adoptions

A blog about adoption experiences


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How my heart just melts

How a year has flown by! We finally received the ADOPTION ORDER, Yay!! So we will be registering our son on our surname very soon.

Not a day goes by that we are not thankful for being his parents. He is a blessing to all he meets and likes chatting to everyone, however I must admit he is a real mommy’s boy and I just love it! Especially his random hugs and kisses or when he says “Mommy… Love You…” Oh How my heart just melts.

 

A mommy’s boy but daddy’s mini-me definitely. Everything daddy does he mimic’s.

He loves climbing, running, kicking ball and cooking. His teachers are amazed at how he is progressing. A one year old that can count until 5; know all his animal sounds and loves consoling his classmates when they are sad. A Charmer with the ladies.. The poor teacher has to constantly watch the girls as they are always fighting to sit next to him. LOL!

Thanks again PROCARE for making all of this possible and for being so professional and caring throughout the adoption, without you this was not possible

Take care and lots of hugs and kisses.

Love Gavin, Sebrina and Samuel

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BEST GIFT EVER!

Our baby is the biggest and most amazing gift we could have ever asked for. Everyone says they hope that 2017 will be a good year, but I know no matter what happens in 2017 nothing will ever beat 2016, because that is when we received our angel. He has taken us from a couple to a family and I can’t imagine life without him anymore. We are so grateful for everyone and everything that has led us to him.

Thank you PROCARE for bringing us together!

From a very grateful family.


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DON’T GIVE UP!

This was the message I’ve wanted to shout out from a rooftop ever since our first baby came home. My message mainly goes out to the moms and dads who are struggling with infertility. My husband and I knew from early on that biological children was more or less out of the question, but both of us had a strong conviction that we were meant to be parents.  We made the life changing decision to pursue a process where the final outcome (your very own baby) would be certain.  

Almost exactly 9 months after we phoned PROCARE for the first time, our daughter arrived. The name that we had in mind for her, reminded us of God’s promise that He would bless us with a family. We felt incredible confirmation that the baby the social worker presented to us in the baby study, was indeed our daughter, when we heard that her birth mom had given her the name Promise. We kept ‘Promise’ as her middle name to remind us all that it was not coincidence that brought us as a family together!  

Twenty months later our son, joined the family and our cups just ran over once again. There isn’t a day that goes by where we don’t thank God for our children and how He brought us together as a family. 

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The power of love

22 December will forever be engraved in our hearts ,  thoughts and memories. It will always be the day that we will celebrate and rejoice as our lives changed forever after fetching our Madi on that special day! She was an early Christmas gift and indeed the best gift one can ever ask for! Also fitting her name, MADISON, meaning “Gift from God”!

Before starting the process at Procare we knew that we were signing up for what probably would be one of the biggest challenges of our lives. We went to our special place in the forest and prayed for that special soul that needed to come home. We sent our prayers out there into the Universe, and knew that whenever the time was ready and if it was meant to be, that soul would join us, and become part of our family! We never doubted that when and if it would happen, that it would be the one that was ALWAYS meant to be the ONE!!!

This would absolutely not be complete without mentioning the Professional services of Procare. From the first appointment to the last,  we knew we were in good hands, capable hands and caring hands! We can never thank Procare enough for the way in which they handled everything. Everyone in the chain helped to ensure that everything ran smoothly! Thank you so much!!!!

We will ALWAYS be grateful to the foster parents that took such good  care of our Madi! They are angels with wings and we will always make sure that Madi knows how wonderful they are! Their dedication, LOVE and commitment is a rare find! We have no words to thank them enough for looking after and caring for Madi in a way that is better than you can imagine.

Madi is a little socialite! She is like a magnet, she draws the crowds with her personality, her beautiful smile and her big big eyes are always the talking point of any conversation.  She has orchestrated a few miracles in her short life with us, and we know there are many more to come. She is an old soul, people have mentioned when they look into her big eyes that she radiates a sense of wisdom and a calmness that is difficult for the hardest person to miss!

Days after fetching Madi, we looked at her and said to her that it felt like she always knew that she was coming to us, and then she gave us the biggest smile ever!! That was a confirmation of what we always knew!!!

Madi is blessed to have so many people in her life, she has been spoiled, and LOVED beyond our expectations!!!  It took a little baby to remind us of the goodness of humankind! This experience has left us humbled and we are filled with gratitude that we have been chosen to be Madi’s parents!! She has come to live with us, however we feel we have to share this special little person with our friends and family,  as she has already won so many hearts! We remind ourselves often that she is on her own journey, part of ours and she has come to teach us and everyone around us about LOVE and the power of LOVE!!!!         

 


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Welcoming Max into our hearts and home

Before Max, we were a family of 3  – My husband, our (then) 5 year old daughter and I.  

We had always wanted a big family and after many fertility struggles over the last 3 years,  we started discussing adoption. And once, we had made the decision that this was what we wanted to do,  we wanted it to happen straight away!! We contacted Procare in October  (we decided to go with procare because we were familiar with them following the adoption of my niece and nephew through procare). After our initial contact, I was a bit deflated to hear that childless couples were given preference and started to think that yet another door was closing on us. However, after some persistence from my side, we had our first appointment to meet with Eloise at the beginning of the year.

From then on, the process was seamless and, looking back now, actually quite quick!! (although, when in the throes of it, it feels like forever!). After all the checks, home visits, meetings, etc we had our final panel meeting scheduled for 24 June. As the date approached, it filled me with a deep sadness. I was excited about the appointment but couldn’t ignore the fact that throughout the process I always had the “next date” to look forward to, to hold onto – something to symbolise that we were on this journey and that there would be a baby for us at the end of it. I knew that after this appointment, we would have nothing and that all we would be able to do is wait…… so, it was bitter sweet for me. 

But then the day arrived and in the middle of our session, our social worker asks us the question that would change our lives forever…. “How ready are you?” I remember us both looking at each other and saying “we are very ready, we are ready now”. We were told to go home and think about it, but there was really nothing to think about; and on the 5th of July, 11 days later – we got to bring our baby boy home. 

The days leading up to placement were the most overwhelming days of my life. I remember feeling sick to my stomach and thinking of all the “what-ifs”…. What if he doesn’t like us….. what if we don’t have a connection or bond with him…. What if I can’t love him like I love my daughter…. What if my daughter has no bond with him…. What if we have made a mistake!! 

But then, then I saw him!!!! And I knew, I knew instantly that all my fears were unnecessary…… this boy, this perfect, beautiful boy was ours and we loved him from the minute we saw him. Having a biological child and an adopted child, I can honestly say that the love is no different – they are both my kids who I would do and give up anything for – and though “how” they got to be my kids may be different, that really is the only difference. 

Max has now been home for almost 3 months, but it feels as if he has always been a part of our lives. He is the sweetest little boy with the cutest little personality – a constant ball of laughter and energy. The bond between our 2 kids are already so evident and it makes my heart so happy. 

Thank you Procare for making our dreams come true and thank you to our boys birth mom for trusting us – you will always be in our hearts.

 

Charne and family


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LOVE NEVER FAILS

I’ve always had a special bond with my mother. She has been a constant example of sacrificial self-sharing throughout my life. I recall her helping me with so many late night projects … last minute errand runs … even just sitting by my side in support or bringing me fuel (tea / food) while I finished working. I always thought my exponential appreciation for her was somehow linked to my age: the older I’d get, the more I’d realise the extent to which she loves me.   Just when I thought I knew it fully, we had our first child. I was completely overcome by what I felt – because I realised that, this whole time, I actually hadn’t even begin to grasp the half of it … I was a mom! I could now start to understand exactly what a mother’s love is. The length & breadth of it. I had a renewed sense of appreciation for my mom. For everything I knew I would still have to learn about giving up and letting go … because, I loved someone else more than myself. Because I had never experienced anything else, I assumed that what I felt might have been due to the fact that I had given birth to our daughter. I didn’t question it … I just kind of presumed that having shared genetics was playing a part in causing this new bond …  And then our second daughter came home … in a very different way to the journey we had experienced with our first daughter. And again, I felt an increased sense of admiration for my mother … I have heard a couple of people say that having their second child was like discovering a whole new chamber in their heart – which they didn’t realise was there before … an enlarged capacity to love.  The love I feel for both of our children has nothing to do with being biologically ‘linked’.  It is something that is ‘alive’ and keeps growing and is bigger than I ever knew it could be.  We are knit together in this journey because love never fails.  Biology is insignificant because true love isn’t conditional. It isn’t bound by what we can wrap our natural minds around.  “It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Thank you PROCARE for making this possible

Love


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Our Little Miracle

Our Little Miracle

Our adoption story began on the day we went for our orientation meeting at Procare. My husband and I had gone through almost 8 years of trying to conceive. After many fertility treatments and 2 heartbreaking miscarriages, our dream of having a family seemed so far out of reach.

We had both discussed adoption and we thought that this was our last chance to have the family we yearned for. We had to take this chance and see where this journey takes us.

After so many years of trying to have a child and being unable to have what seemed to come so naturally to everyone else, we felt very vulnerable and so nervous to even get our hopes up. Fortunately for us, we chose Procare to take us through this journey and from the moment we walked into their offices, Elsabe, Elize and the rest of the staff made us feel so welcome and so at ease.  Even though we were still anxious, they made us feel that all our feelings were valid, answered all our questions and were very open and honest with us.

Their advice and guidance was comforting and their professionalism was amazing, but of course, we were still apprehensive as to whether this journey would have a happy ending. It was after 5 months of paperwork, police clearances, interviews, questionnaires, medicals and all the rest of the exhausting work we had to put in, that we were declared “paper pregnant” and Elize said to me, “Pam, at the end of this journey, you WILL have your baby!”  Only at this point did we allow ourselves to be hopeful and cautiously excited that our dreams may actually come true!

And just like a fairytale, exactly 9 months after being declared “paper pregnant”, we got the call that they found a match for us!  Saying we were excited was the biggest understatement…we were completely over the moon! I screamed so loud when I got the news that everyone at work immediately knew that it had something to do with the adoption. We went to our matching meeting, beaming from ear to ear and couldn’t wait to hear all about this little miracle that would soon be ours.

We saw his little face and heard his story and we already loved him. Seeing him and knowing he belongs with us made us feel like a giant weight was lifted off our shoulders and we just cried with relief that we had finally found our beautiful baby. I may not have carried him in my womb, but we carried him in our hearts for so long and we were finally going to meet him. Words cannot describe the joy of going into the shops and buying baby stuff for OUR baby! Something as ordinary as baby clothes hanging on the line for us was the most incredible sight. I never saw a more gorgeous sight in our back yard and my heart felt so full of love!

We were so anxious about meeting our little boy, that we arrived 45 minutes early for the meeting. We sat quietly in the lounge watching the clock tick away and it felt like hours! Finally the time had come and meeting our little bundle of joy and holding him in our arms for the first time was like feeling God put his hand on my shoulder to reassure me that all was right with the world now.

Our world has been turned upside down with the arrival of our precious Jordan, but the view from this side has never looked more beautiful or satisfying. We love our son so much and never realised how much space in your heart such a little person could take up. We cannot imagine how we lived our lives before Jordan came into ours. He is the light in our lives and has brought so much happiness into our home.

Thank you Elsabe, Elize, Sunette, Eloise, Mienie and the rest of Procare for bringing our beautiful boy home to us.

Thank you to Jordan’s kangaroo parents for taking such good care of him and loving him so much. God bless you both and your family for being his angels on earth.

We are eternally grateful and blessed.

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